A few tips to show you that HE IS INTO YOU

• Eager to see you
• Reluctant to leave you - M
• Wants regular consistent contact, asks for dates
• Interested in you and your life
• Wants to be helpful- M
• Is verbally and physically affectionate - M
• Wants to be romantic and sexual with you - M
• Texts, emails or calls regularly
• Acts like you are very special; doesn’t really want to date others
• If you are dating other men--willing to hang in there
• Becoming more attentive and loving over time
• Becoming more open to sharing his feelings and thoughts
• Becoming more open to sharing his living space
• Becoming more open to sharing his social life with friends and family members.
• Saying he loves you
• Saying he wants a future with you - M

I have marked an M next to each bullet to represent what i feel  Marshalls shows how he is into me - which is 25% of this list. At this point as woman who knows what Im looking for, why should I settle for this 25%. NO WAY.

Hello!!!

My name is May and pretty new to this blogging stuff.  My twin sister Maddy and i decided to share our experiences on dating, relationships and falling in love.  Bare with us as we will be writing while we experience life.  Maddy has recently connected with an old fling.  


Sit back with some wine and cheese, vodka, ice cream or whatever your heart fancies.  We hope you enjoy and maybe pick up a thing or two!

He's gone....

One day it happens.  You're happily married or in a long term relationship and the next day he's gone.  He just up and left.  All you get from him is I'm not happy, you nag me, its not you its me, blah blah blah. Now you're left with all these unexpected feelings of depression, despair and loneliness.  You cant stop crying and you feel like its the end of the world.  You're up all night wondering what you did wrong. What is a woman to do?  

Then we meet a new man and we never hear from him after the first date.  Its happened to me and to many countless other women.  What we don't realize is that its us.  It always has been us!  Somewhere along the relationship we lose ourselves and make our entire lives revolve around "him".  In all my years of dating, marriage, divorce and dating again Ive finally realize its me!  And the biggest problem is that we don't come to this realization until later on in life. Ive watched so many young women in their early 20's go from guy to guy and wonder what they're doing wrong.  But I gotta say, its not only the younger women.  I have friends in their 30s that still cant keep a man as hard as they try, he just runs away.  If they only just shut up and take a look at how they are representing themselves then maybe and mostly likely they can nab the man of their dreams!

So my sister and I have decided to conduct an experiment. 

Ok first a bit of background.  My twin sister Maddy, after 10 years and a gorgeous 2 year old son, is now getting a divorce.  Shes been separated for about 4 months.  Her ex walking out was a complete surprise.  As with most of us she knew there were some problems in the relationship, but she didn't think there was any reason for him to walk out. One day they had an argument and he walked out never to return. I am also married and divorced twice and now in a long term relationship.  More on that later.

On to our experiment!  So Maddy spent the better part of the summer mourning her relationship.  Ive been there so I knew how she was feeling. She didn't want to go anywhere or do anything, she couldn't concentrate.  She felt as if the world was crashing and coming to an end.  I knew she needed time but I advised her to get back to herself.  Find some hobbies, do things she likes to do.  Within the past month I noticed she was finally starting to move on and she began to feel like herself again.

Then came Marshall (name has been changed to protect his identity). Marshall was an old boyfriend my sister dated while we were in high school.  He found her on facebook and they instantly connected.  They talked all night and had a few laughs.  But what we came to realize is that 40 year old Marshall is just as much a player as the 23 year old you met at the bar Saturday night.  Cocky, arrogant, trying to impress and not listening to a word my sister said.  

He came over the next day and they even went to dinner the day after.  They kissed a little, flirted and even shared a few hugs.  

And then he disappeared......

What the hell went wrong?????  


So our experiment is not to fall in love with "Marshall" while dating him and becoming that girl we all know.  The klingy, low self esteem and needy girl that cant keep a man.  Lets call her "Petunia".